Helen mentioned in her blog this week that there is nothing more special than your first pregnancy.
We both also agree there is nothing more special than your first year of maternity leave when it’s just you and bub and no other little bambinos snapping at your ankles!
You’ve got the time to stare at your new baby all day long, discover their amazingness, awe over their new milestones, help them grow. There’s also time, when you have just one, to nap when baby sleeps!
We had our first borns, Lenny and Annabelle, just a month apart and spent a good part of our maternity leave together just hanging out in our PJ pants, watching movie marathons, breastfeeding the bubs, changing nappies, drinking coffee, eating cake, shopping, going to baby expo’s, day trips in the city, Pumpkin Patch and Kmart excursions, chatting about #mumlife (which is where the idea for MLTS originated all those years ago!).
It was so much fun sharing the experience with another new mum! Especially your best friend. No topic was off limits. Poo, the birth aftermath, feeding difficulties, poo, sleep problems, the first time baby smiled, and more poo. No time was spent alone, no isolation. Just time spent together, experiencing the same motherhood journey, the same milestones, the similar life.
Our second babies, Penny & Stella, were also born close together but the maternity leave just didn’t feel the same as our attention couldn’t be solely on the bub, seeming we had little toddlers running around too!
And there was definitely no long lunches and movie watching (toddlers had well and truly taken over the TV at this point!) when the six of us got together, one of us always had to leave early to pop the toddler down for nap time or to attend swimming or kinder etc…
A conversation, a cup of tea, a piece of cake, they all start but they don’t get finished as you breast feed one, change another one’s nappy and tend to your multiple children. It’s chaotic madness at it’s best.
It was still super fun of course and we are so lucky to have had that time with our children without work too, it was just busy and different to the first time.
Nothing in our eyes can replace that first special year and all the feelings you experience being a first time mum. Excitement, nervousness, pain, tears, love, happiness, sadness, joy… It was a roller coaster of emotions that’s for sure but memorable to say the least! We are so glad we treasured our first maternity leave year, it really was a time we will never forget.
How about you? Did you find your maternity leave different the first time around compared with the second?