As we all know, being a parent has many ups and downs. It also has very few down time moments. Day after day we put our kids, our chores, our routines, our household maintenance and our errands before any kind of relaxation and then before we know it we’ve spent months keeping the wheels in motion yet we haven’t actually moved. It can often get to a point where we’ve forgotten who we are as a person rather than just a mum, how to enjoy ourselves and how to just… stop and smell the roses.
It’s important for us to recharge our batteries so we can perform at our best.
Mama loves to share’s May is for Me campaign encourages gorgeous Mama’s everywhere (and papa’s too, of course, we don’t like to discriminate!) to take a little me time and do something for yourself, without the Mama guilt that can bubble inside. Sometimes you just need to take off those rubber gloves, put down that basket of washing or the wooden spoon, hang up your apron, take off your uncomfortable bra, close the door on the kids and the hubby and just breathe. Just be.
And look, we know that taking a holiday, having a weekend away or getting a two hour massage just isn’t possible for many of us right now (but hopefully it can happen in the near future!) But that doesn’t mean you can’t incorporate some little moments into your busy parent life.
So here are some ideas that will hopefully help you create some little May is for Me moments into your day over the next few weeks…
1. Read a book while sipping on a cuppa for half an hour before school pick up.
2. Get some retail therapy or window shop – before you head straight into the supermarket to buy the groceries, take a stroll around the shops by yourself.
3. Buy yourself a bunch of flowers.
4. Take a walk along your favourite local beach.
5. Say yes to drinks out with the girls.
6. Write in a journal. Even if it’s just a couple of sentences. Journal writing can be very therapeutic and they are great to look back on and cry/laugh at what you have written in a few years time.
7. Download the Smiling Minds App or a Yoga YouTube video and do either a meditation exercise for ten minutes or a 20 minute yoga session.
8. Take an hour to visit a quiet cafe, have a coffee and read a magazine.
9. Make a playlist of your favourite songs and go for a drive – just make sure you come back!
10. Go and see a movie by yourself or with a friend.
11. Browse at a quiet book shop.
12. Give yourself a little mani pedi – 60 second dry nail polish is the best!
13. Wander at a market by yourself on the weekend.
14. Colour in or sketch something – it can be very therapeutic – even if you sit and colour with the kids!
15. Take a bubble bath – wait until the kids have gone to bed, fill the bath, light some candles and just lay and indulge in the hot bubbles.
16. Accept offers of respite – if a friend or family member offers to take the kids for a couple of hours, ignore the mama guilt and say YES!
17. Cook a new recipe, take your time selecting the ingredients then go home and enjoy mixing, baking, needing and stirring!
18. Buy yourself a really nice candle, light it each night and enjoy the ambiance it brings to a dimly lit room.
19. Go for a swim at your local swimming pool. It’s amazing how good gliding through the water can make your body feel.
20. Go out for coffee and dessert with a friend after the kids go to bed.
No matter how much we have to do around the house, how many errands we have to run or how much we have going on at work, most of these “me” moments are things that can be done and they should be done. We can’t be expected to keep the motor running day in day out without refuelling every now and again.
We owe to ourselves to take a little break every once and a while and, honestly, the kids and the partners will thank us for it in the end because they will see a new refreshed Mama come back fighting stronger, happier and saner after every little “me” moment we take. After all a happy wife is a happy life!
Don’t forget to tag us and #mayisforme in your pics when you take some much needed time out so that we can share with others.
Lisa & Helen xo