When was the last time you did something for yourself? Finding it hard to remember? Don’t worry; you’re not strange, you’re not a minority and you’re not alone…you’re probably a mum! And if you’re anything like us then you’ll also be finding it hard to believe that it’s already May! Where is the time going?!
It’s Monday and then before you know it, it’s Friday and you think to yourself, how the hell did that happen?! You look back on the week and feel like you’ve achieved absolutely nothing (well, aside from keeping the kids alive!) and then it starts all over again and again, the same old stagnant routine. Throw part time/full time work into the mix or perhaps single parent/FIFO wife and there is just no time to catch your tail. Our lives are moving forward at this extremely rapid pace yet when we stop and reflect, we, the mums, are standing still. Does that make sense?
As a mum, it’s natural to put everyone else’s needs in the family before your own. You load the kids into the car, you drive to soccer training and dancing, you do the school run, the groceries, the doctors appointments and by the time you finally get home and sit down for the night (after making the kids dinner, bathing them and putting them to bed!), you are absolutely spent, exhausted, deflated. The things you did have planned for yourself don’t happen and the cycle repeats week after week.
Now close your eyes and imagine you’re a jug. A big tall plastic jug like the ones you can purchase from Ikea. Your kids, your partner, your house work, your job, the groceries… they are the cups. Jug. Cups. Naturally, as the jug, it’s your responsibility to pour into all these little cups (I’m sure you’re picturing water, but refocus now and imagine it’s your soul…!). Week after week you’re pouring, and pouring and filling and filling and everyone else’s cups look mighty fine, in fact, they are positively over flowing with love and contentment and shiny new soccer boots and hearty homemade meals.
But you, the jug, are just getting emptier and emptier and emptier until one day… the jug is completely empty. Bone dry. As dry as a dead dingos donger. And so the jug (you) gets a huge gawd damn crack in it (the crack being your exhaustion, you’re spent, you’re physically and emotionally drained) and because the jug is dry and the jug feels like shit, the jug now feels like pushing itself over on the kitchen bench and smashing itself into tiny little pieces… BUT… the jug is made of plastic, so the jug doesn’t smash, it just bounces and it bounces right back up into its upright position and starts pouring all over again without stopping to fix it’s crack. Woah, deep right?!
Oh and it’s not just the pouring that dries us up. It’s not just the everyday tasks we repeat day in and day out. It’s more than that. Perhaps it’s the dreams you don’t feel as though you’re ever going to fulfill, the course you want to study but simply can not find the time. Maybe it’s the jealousy of seeing someone in the job that you want, the clothes she’s wearing that you don’t feel as though you have the confidence to wear. Perhaps it’s the images on your social media feed that make you feel worthless, the guilt of knowing there’s a dusty gym membership in the back of your purse, the suffocating anxiety that fills your mind every time you need to make a decision, the feeling of not thinking you’re good enough, smart enough (good old impostor syndrome), not having the balls to step out of your comfort zone.
So what can we do about it? How can we continue to pour without going bone dry? How can we fix the cracks? How can we fulfill our lives both mentally, physically and spiritually?
Well ladies, in appreciation of mums everywhere who continue to sacrifice their own interests for the sake of teeny tiny humans, it’s time to once again implement our ‘May is for Me’ campaign where we encourage all mums to start doing something for themselves – no matter how big or small it may be.
Our ‘May is for Me’ campaign encourages mama’s everywhere to stop, breathe (the deep breaths, not just the everyday ones) and evaluate what is really important in their lives. Take the time to start doing something for yourself again without a single drop of the mama guilt that can eat away at you inside. Sometimes you just need to take off those rubber gloves, put down that basket of washing or the wooden spoon, hang up your apron, take off your uncomfortable bra, close the door on the kids and the hubby and just… Breathe. Just… Be.
Our aim is for this movement to encourage other mums to do the same. Stop the guilt associated with doing something for ourselves. This may be as simple as taking a gym or yoga class, finally picking up that book you’ve been meaning to read, going for a nice long walk on the beach, sitting down with a cup of tea and a magazine, getting that tattoo you’ve always wanted, cooking a recipe that you have been wanting to try, booking a spa treatment, getting your hair done, signing up to a short course or even having a girls night away! Or it could be something deeper. Facing a fear, writing a meaningful letter, seeing a councillor or forgiving someone for something.
No matter how big or small, the idea behind the campaign is for you to simply stop, take a breath and do something for yourself, rekindling your inner spirit, remembering that you are a human being with a real first name and not just “mum.”
So, keep an eye out for lots of blog posts, daily tips, interviews with inspiring mums, and giveaways (heaps of giveaways) throughout the month of May and make sure you tag us in your pics as well as hashtag #mayisforme so that we can share your ‘May is for Me’ moments and remind fellow mamas everywhere that it is OK to put yourself first and do something for you.
Get ready ladies… the mama’s are ready to unleash.
Lisa & Helen xo